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This is no bubbe meisseh

(or maybe it is)

It's the truth grandmothers tell

that you can't hear until you know it.

Did I tell you how my parents met?

My dad had no date

and momma was a hot ticket

So Mrs. Rockwell (sounding to my child ear like Rockefeller; no,

like Rothschild)

got on the Hoboken Hadassah hot-line

And he was welcomed by bubbe and zeydeh

with garlic handshakes.

My mother protested.

`But ma, he's fat as the pretzel man'

`Shah' says bubbe, `A nice boy. Have a good time darling.'

(Only I'm sure she said it in yiddish so

I couldn't understand until well after I was born.)

And he didn't kiss like Bob Grossman

he had a temper

he ate with his mouth open

and he wasn't a poet.

But he was constant and no more or less a

nudnick than anyone else so,

she married him.

You know you should be married

I've such a nice boy for you

I only live to see you married...

I knew my grandparents would live forever

while I tasted rapture's gardens

poets, artists, musicians

we hung rosettes on the headboard

and in the doorway

and in the back seat

and in the front seat

and in the diner

and and and...

sometimes, no most times I was dizzy, faint and full

full of words and love and passion

and and and...

sometimes now I sigh and let tears fall

with nostalgia for a hot breathed

conquistador savored and kissed.

who never said I love you aloud

who vanquished before vanishing.There's a skinny mahlink here, a real nudnik

he is arrogant

he doesn't shut up

he is stubborn

My mother says he has a good heart

but he eats with his mouth open

and he is constantly...

well, constantly here.

I folded up the sheets with all their fragrances

got rid of the futon

and put signs upon the gate.

He holds those words bound to him

as a sign on the frontlet between his eyes

and bound close to his heart.

Even in anger I hear the Song of Solomon

between invectives.

And bubbe may she rest in peace, saying

what is all this mishegas,

love

shmove

he's a good man

he loves you

you train him

you love him.

So kinder (this lesson while you're fressen)

nourish hearts with love more robust than passion

you could do worse than to give up the

poet for a pretzel man.

bubbe meisseh

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